I was afraid.
Each time I experienced gastrointestinal changes, I tried not to worry. But I did.
Even when I tried to get this worry down on paper, I failed to finish two consecutive sentences. One sentence if I allowed my interior monologue to perform a James Joyce oration without punctuation.
That was not me, however. I usually didn’t let chaos overwhelm me. My path of life had on regular intervals been paved with chaos, so I was well-used to it.
Lost my only sibling.
Lost my step-dad.
Lost my granny.
Diagnosed with a neurodegenerative illness.
Diagnosed with a hospital acquired superbug.
All in the space of 3 years.
Need I go on?
If my first name was Chaos, everyone would have believed it.
“Strength does not come from physical capacity.
It comes from an indomitable will.”
Within Gandhi’s description of strength, however, was some fear also, and within that fear, there was the indignity. That superbug wasn’t meant for me. I wasn’t an elderly person, I didn’t live in unclean housing and I hardly ever used antibiotics.
I could’ve continued listing pessimism, unhappiness and disaster, only, I unconditionally refused to. Clostridium Difficile wasn’t indeed mine to get or to give in to, so I fought my way back. I am not now, have never been and will never be one to give up without at least trying five different ways to solve a riddle.
I wasn’t ready to go. I had lived enough for two lives, but I wanted a third.
“You have power over your mind – not outside events.
Realize this, and you will find strength.”
I found the above text in one of my old notebooks and was struck at how I felt back then. I was 35 and realized that I had more years in front of me than were behind me. I had gone through a few physical hiccups since the superbug, and looking back, I sailed through them without as much as a break in the waves.
I’m 41 now, and somewhere down the line my attitude gradually changed. I’m still not ready to go. Some of the pains MS has saddled me up with – facial pain or trigeminal neuralgia – has willingly sent some people to their death. I, however, will not make my mum childless because of my inability to deal with physical pain.
People are the only living creatures who are so preoccupied with dying, death, wakes and funerals. I rather refer to it as “passing over.” Where to? I have no idea, I just know it’s the next stage in life, and it’s not like Dante’s Inferno.
Whenever I used to talk with one of my friends about sorting out life-insurance, writing wills and preparing for the next stage, she said “I don’t understand why you want to do this. My parents or family will do all this for me. Isn’t it a bit morbid if you want to get life insurance to pay for your funeral?!” Well, of course, it’s morbid! You don’t prepare for this when you’re immortal!
“In the depth of winter,
I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.”
“There is no end.
There is no beginning.
There is only the passion of life.”
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