“I’m a little bit older, a little bit wiser, a little bit rounder,
but still none the wiser.”
“We’re going to get resolute about our new year’s resolutions in 2013,” according to a new weekly writing challenge on WordPress today. The doompocalyptic-resolutions-writing challenge asks us to write about “the three things you’d most like to change about your life, and make a bold, I-don’t-care-who-knows-it-because-there’s-a-meteor-a-comin’ assertion to the world that you are going to get these changes made. And that you’ll have at least started making them happen by March. When, erm, you’re probably going to wind up as dust.”
Ouch… resolutions… dirty word! Especially on New Year’s Day. Even though I’ve never made tangible lists in the past, I always had a quickly-made-up and shortened version of one in my mind when I needed an easy-to-fix pick-me-up, purely for self-gratifying purposes of course. I know, I am a couch-potato when it comes to making resolutions or sticking to them…
What’s new? I’ll start my forties later in 2013, and perhaps it’s time to face up to some things I’ve almost deliberately refused to tackle in 2012, like my weight. Or eat healthier. Drink more water. Exercise more. Save more. Be more productive. Volunteer. Make new friends. Learn Italian. Continue degree in psychology. Attend birthday parties. Find love. Be a role model. Read (even) more. Remind myself that it’s OK not to be 100% OK…
You can tell, there’s much to do if I want to be the perfect resolution role model and from looking at what I just wrote down, I can already tell that fixing one resolution automatically can and/or will lead to the next. Eating healthier and drinking more water will lead to feeling physically a bit better, which will lead to a bit more productivity either at home or in my resolution to volunteer. This can lead to being a role model, making more new friends, and perhaps finding love, three other resolutions waiting to be tackled.
While I’m waiting for 2012 to end, the list is unconsciously growing longer. And while 2012 was the year in which I found myself by letting go of some people, some situations and heartache, I want 2013 to be the year in which I will do something about my list of New Year’s resolutions. Most definitely. Absolutely. And if I don’t, I hope they will come to bite me in my proverbial derrière.
So… three things asked by the doompocalyptic-resolutions-writing challenge … what the hell, I am just going to go for it!
First thing I want to change is my weight, and I am not kidding this time. I want 2013 to be the one where I got serious about my medicine-and-lack-of-activity-induced-weight-gain. It will be cut to a more manageable figure on the scales and this time it’s for real. Thank you multiple sclerosis however for helping me reach new heights but mind you, I am not hiding behind my illness. There’s nothing to gain psycho-analytically here, it just is what it is: I gained weight of having to take medication, and because of not being in the workforce anymore. Easy peasy.
Second thing I seriously want to change about my life is become more socially active, so less time on Facebook but being out and doing things (as far as physically possible) and hopefully meeting new friends. One thing I’ve been meaning to do is volunteering with elderly people because I find them so interesting and full of stories. Otherwise, I’m game for other socially acceptable activities so anyone in the Dublin area in Ireland, give me a shout. I’m interested in photography, books, libraries, bookshops, history, geography, psychology and other cerebral activities… gimme a shout if you want to meet this crazy chick!
Third – and last major – thing I want to change is to listen to, learn from and be non-judgmental in situations I know nothing of, or at least learn to twist my tongue 20 times in my mouth before speaking. My relatives, close friends and I rarely get into fights and being so straightforward is a rarity, yet it’s something I want to change either way. I’m not blunt, at least not to those I do not know well enough to be blunt with. It’s not something I’m proud of when I’m pushed into a corner or when my patience has finally run out. So hear me out… I will learn to be more moderate towards those who know me best if/when we get into discussions.
Never thought at the start of writing this post that this would be the end result, but it’s liberating and it feels good to be able to start a new year with a list that says “hey you, yeah, you there! Check out this chicky here, she means business!” Funnily enough, I do have a mind of my own, and I’ve been known to be able to stick to some things in life, so perhaps it’s time I allow myself to grow physically this year. Because I’m quite sure that those 3 resolutions will help me along the way of less stress and therefore better nights with much-needed sleep. So while I learned to be my own, alternative self in 2012, I will become a more rounded (no pun intended) and socially active human being in 2013. Or at least until the next doomsday* theory hits the fans!
(*) I’ve had a blast hearing about the Mayan and all the other doomsday theories the last few years, so let’s keep them alive so the more realistic people like me can have a giggle at how gullible some can be!
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